“Here’s to fearless women. May we know them. May we be them. May we raise them.”
On my journey to becoming a fearless woman, I met Leanne Dlamini and in the few months that I have known her I have learnt a lot from her.
Leanne is a singer/ song-writer, entrepreneur, wife, mother, mentor and all round phenomenal woman with a heart of gold ! She is one of the most beautiful women I have ever met and I’m not just talking about her physical appearance.
I am grateful for the opportunity to share her light on this platform..
iSlenderSaMaCatalogue: I almost fell out of my seat the first time I heard you say, “a million likes will never be enough if you do not like yourself”, maybe it’s because we live in a society where we seek validation from social media likes instead of ourselves, what are your thoughts on self-validation ?
Leanne Dlamini: Self Validation to me is Self Love and Self Love is Freedom and Peace. When you no longer need people to validate you and your accomplishments you’ve reached a special place in your life. I think to be completely happy, we need to fully love ourselves. When I came to this realization my outlook on life changed.
iSlenderSaMaCatalogue: I assume it takes a certain level of self-awareness to reach a point where self-validation comes naturally, when and how did you reach that level of self-awareness where you figured out who you are and what you want to stand for ?
Leanne Dlamini: Self-validation and Self- Awareness is a constant work in progress for everyone and I think it came for me when I figured out my passion which led me to my purpose. I founded End Girl Hate at the beginning of my self validation and self love journey. I was over the competition and comparisons us women put on ourselves and that’s where it began for me.
iSlenderSaMaCatalogue: “Purpose over popularity” is the first thing that’s written on your instagram bio and I’ve heard you encouraging people to use the platforms that they have to UPLIFT rather than IMPRESS people, please explain those concepts to me..
Leanne Dlamini: Our purpose on this earth is not just for us, we’re here to help one another, to make a difference in the lives of others and when I came to that realization my life changed. I wanted to be effective and make a difference on this earth. Many of us are given incredible platforms and we can either use it in a negative or positive way and I decided to use my voice through social media to inspire others.
A million likes will never be enough if you do not like yourself. – Leanne Dlamini
iSlenderSaMaCatalogue: Apart from being a singer/song-writer, entrepreneur, mommy and wife. You’re the founder of the ‘End Girl Hate’ movement which aims to empower, inspire and connect women and girls through sisterhood, what inspired you to start such a movement ?
Leanne Dlamini: I’m a mom to two girls, aged 9 and 4 and I wanted my children to see sisterhood as a real thing. I hated walking into a room and feeling like other women were judging and staring me down. I didn’t like the unspoken hate/competition women had towards one another and I wanted to impact women and girls in a positive way.
iSlenderSaMaCatalogue: Do you feel we as women have a responsibility to our sisters, daughters, and ourselves to do better, be friendlier and more supportive of each other?
Leanne Dlamini: Absolutely! This is something we need to remind ourselves of daily. When I notice myself slipping up towards another woman I check myself quickly. If I did another woman wrong I will always be the first to apologize. It’s hard, but we need to do better!
iSlenderSaMaCatalogue: I saw a recent picture of you at the Global Citizen Concert, where you were wearing a Slogan T which boldly states “feminist” the term is widely debated, what does it mean to you ?
Leanne Dlamini: A woman who stands for women! Fights for women! Supports women! And loves men too 🙂
iSlenderSaMaCatalogue: In just a matter of two years ‘End Girl Hate’ has become international, what’s next for the movement and yourself ?
Leanne Dlamini: wow, I’m still trying to figure that out, but I just let God lead and see what happens. As long as we have a positive impact on people and we’re making a difference in the lives of others, that to me will be enough!
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Written by Nkhesani Jessica Mahlekisi